Tag Archives: family values

11/2/19

Generosity And Connection

Sitting down to write today’s blog piece I was thinking about several concepts related to family business. Among these, the difficulty of choosing the right successor, the significance of shared family values, the importance of stewardship (the passing on of family assets—wealth, reputation, emotional well-being, spirituality—in better condition than when you received them.)

As I do at times, I turned to others for ideas. In this case I found what I was looking for in a blog by Seth Godin.

Godin’s article Bread and Book, is not intended to be a comment on family businesses. But it’s one of the best—and more tragic—stories I’ve seen of succession, family values and stewardship https://seths.blog/2019/10/bread-and-books/. It’s a story of world-famous baker Lionel Poilâne and how Godin and Poilâne met and became friends.

Describing what he learned from his time with Poilâne, Godin wrote: “Ideas, bread and books are all the same–they’re better when they’re shared. The posture of generosity and connection replaces a mindset of scarcity, and Lionel modeled this philosophy every day.” From his friendship with Poilâne Godin learned about the magical intersection between generosity and idiosyncrasy.

Tragically, Lionel Poilâne and his wife were killed in a helicopter crash, leaving behind two teenage daughters. It’s here that the story enters the realm of family business.

The elder daughter, Apollonia, immediately stepped up and took over the running of the bakery. She’s made a success of it, with no diminution of quality. And she’s recently published a book.

In Poilâne: The Secrets of the World-Famous Bread Bakery, Apollonia relates her family’s story. It begins with her grandfather and now flows to the fourth generation. She writes: “The seeds of this book were planted by my father and mother in my sister and me. They are seeds of passion, determination, and love for our craft. My sister, Athena, helped me germinate those seeds, and with the birth of her son, we now have another generation with whom to share our family story.”

Family values, succession, stewardship. It’s all there for the learning,

10/6/18

What’s Important At Thanksgiving Dinner

I recently had a conversation with a potential client that would eventually involve her husband, elderly parents and two siblings. The issue, as brought to me, involved transitioning the management of the family business from her parents to her husband. I learned that among the family members there are differing thoughts regarding the value of the business. There is also some resentment about her husband’s ambitions for the business. Moreover, her two siblings believe that their sister and her husband are taking advantage of their parents.

This situation is complex, yet not unheard of. In the course of our conversation we discussed how developing a clear statement of individual and family values will lay important groundwork for its resolution. We spoke as well of the importance of educating the family members about the systems that underpin the workings of family businesses, and helping them understand best practices employed by successful multi-generational family businesses. Most important though, in our conversation, was the question of how to convince the family members to undertake this education with the help of an outside advisor.

What is fundamentally important here? I suggest it’s family harmony. Will this family be able to sit down together for Thanksgiving dinner next year and enjoy the company of everyone there? If not, the business and everything and everyone associated with it are left in peril.