10/27/18

Relevancy Reborn

Recently I had a conversation with a woman who is heading her 2nd generation family business.  She spoke about her father who is in his mid 60s. She told me he does not interfere with her management of the business but does insist on retaining control of some day-to-day operations. She added that he had recently divorced her mother and was dating again.

She doesn’t want to get involved in his personal life, but does want him to play a different role within the business. She believes that with his 30 years of experience he would be more beneficial to the firm as its ‘ambassador.’ In this role, with his industry knowledge and contacts he had nurtured over the years he can spread goodwill, identify potential opportunities and mentor emerging next-generation family members.

This situation shines light on the question of how an older-generation business leader can maintain personal relevancy after the younger generation has assumed control. It’s not uncommon for someone approaching their elder years to be facing this passage. Instead of letting go and moving forward, they may attempt to relive times of their life when they felt most alive.

By transitioning to the new role his daughter wishes him to assume—one that neither he nor the family may have envisioned before—her father’s personal and work relevancy can be reborn.

08/11/18

Elder Or Elderly—Inspirational Reading

I recently finished reading Thomas Moore’s most recent book: Ageless Soul: The Lifelong Journey Toward Meaning and Joy https://www.amazon.com/Ageless-Soul-Lifelong-Journey-Meaning/dp/B075X2S2Y8/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1533849488&sr=8-1&keywords=ageless+soul+thomas+moore.

I find the book extremely important and have described its premise—distinguishing between being elderly and being an elder—as critical for living a life with meaning and joy. I also immediately saw its importance to the survival of both the incumbent head of a family business and the business itself.

Within the mainstream of our contemporary culture ‘elder’ is perhaps an elusive term. Moore though, uses this term as he writes about elders he has known in his life, and about their qualities. Surprisingly, these qualities are not elusive, though they may be challenging. In the section of the book entitled “How to Be an Elder” (pp 178-185) he presents this list:

  1. The first requirement is to be comfortable with your age
  2. Have confidence in your education and experience to the point you may guide others
  3. The elder has to love young people
  4. The elder uses any knowledge and wisdom he or she has to benefit others, especially the young
  5. Cultivate your power to inspire others